Friday, August 19, 2016

Travel Crush



Marrakesh! 
Video from here.


And Nepal! Namaste! 
Video from here.

Let this be a reminder for me to keep on my best effort at work so I can take some days off later when schedule is not too tight. For now, this video should be enough, though... How about you? Where is your dream destination recently?

Sunday, May 8, 2016

Society's Judgement or Our Own Uncertainty?

I’ve been reading a lot of articles and thoughts that spread all over the social media about our young generation complaining or sometimes blaming over and over again about what we so called “judgment”. When we come to age of maturity -which in our culture is 24/25 and so on- people tend to start catching up on us about the important matters in our life when we meet. And what is it all about, speaking of which?

Marriage, career, achievements, and even children.

“When will you get married with your long time boyfriend?”
“Hasn’t it been years since you two dating? When will it be official?”
“When will you pursue your chosen specialty? What will it be anyway?”
“Where are you working now? Don’t you want to have your own clinic?”
“I see that you posted a lot of pictures aboard in Instagram, you study aboard now?”

I heard those sentences almost everytime I meet my long lost friends, or families. And maybe most of us around previous mentioned age have been hearing the similar type of question quite intense lately. And it looks like there will be no end to those questions, it is not uncommon to me to hear people asking to someone older than me:

“When will you try for another babies?”
“Where does your son study now? He is a very bright kid I remember.”
“I hear your son has just got accepted at those multi national company? Congratulation for him.”

People will always be asking us about matters they thought important in life. And there is no harm about that, in my opinion. 
What is important in someone’s life is absolutely different from one person to another. Those happy wives will think that marriage is important and they will ask you about when will you get married, those successful friends who now run a well known restaurant chain will ask you about what’s your newest project is, those philanthropist friends of yours will ask about whether or not you have participated in creating a perfect corporate social responsibility in your office.

There will be no end to those questions.

According to my case, those people who asked me the question: my parents, my big families,  my dear friends, never judge me after I give my answer.

On “When will you get married?”

I usually will answer: “I do not have any plan to get married anytime soon, I am still in my clinical year pursuing my DDS degree. For now, I have two plan before I get married, after getting my DDS I want to pursue a one year master in health management or I will go to remote area, which also for a year, to do an internship in remote area clinic.”

For now, I love learning, I love traveling, and I love interpersonal relationship; in that order.

Maybe unlike what they know, what they thought, what they hope, my answer is not a quite common answer they usually get. But they understand, or even sometimes, open for a further discussion. Because I give them a clear answer.

A clear answer will come when I am certain of my choices. Whether it is common or uncommon choices, when I am certain of what I choose, people tend to support me too.  I don’t know about you, but in my case, that is the deal.


So, when people ask us “When will you get married?” -instead of showing them our own perspective of what is important in our life, how our goals set and how we put them in our very own priorities order- we get angry and call them judgmental, maybe we have to sit for a while, asking once again to ourselves, “Am I certain of my own choices, my own plan, my reasoning? Am I certain of what I stand for? Why do I got angry and offended over those simple question if I can clearly and easily answer it?”







From beaches, museums to highlands. Ubud, Singapore, Istanbul, to Kapadokya. Some of my latest journey I'm sure I'm in love with which I haven't been able to share in this blog, and promise to share it soon.

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Head Turner

Prom is just around the corner and I still could remember what I wore as a high school young lady who is still clueless about how to dress to be a head turner, and I may say that most of my friends, boys or girls, are also as clueless as me. Now that I finally had invent my signature style, I think it is just the right time to write about how would I dress, if I were to go back to high school prom. While hoping that you might get some enlightenment which can be useful for your own prom style, hopefully!



How I look at my high school prom (year 2010) which had a masquerade theme. It is such a fashion disaster I know: stupid layering, stupid shoes color, and no make up at all. And the one beside me too: the wrong informal shoes turn down his appearance. 

Now, if I were to go back to high school today, it will be quite easier because I could find quite a few dresses and tuxedos rental online, which will cut down my budget for those beautiful outfit I need, to boost my appearance. Back then at 2010, it is still hard to find great and edible online shop, let alone dresses or tuxedos online rental

Speaking about prom style first, what is my preferences? Is it to have a matching dresses and tux with my companion? Or does his tie match better with my dress, in bow tie or long tie? Here is what I thought, first about ladies style:

  • Black or white is the best color to boost our appearances, when added with a strong personality. I like black or white dresses, not because it is safe, but because when basic color is added with the perfect amount of confidence and personality, the whole appearance become perfectly presentable. 
  • Choose a dress that show your most admirable parts, and cover everything else. For me, I love to show off my shoulder and clavicle because when a dress beautifully showed it off, it creates a perfect figure for my face. A proper make up and an exposed shoulder hides my chubby cheek. And, I would love to cover the other part of my body, because people love to play mystery game. If you can see everything, what is left to wonder anyway?
  • Do the hair properly. Whether it is a full up do or a half up do, your hair have to match your make up and your dresses. For me, a half up do or a curled hair is okay when it is combine with  a sabrina dresses, but when the dress cover your shoulder, it is better to do a full up do.
  • Put the right amount of make up. I believe that I have shown the disaster when you using no make up to a prom night in my above picture.
  • Matching the dress with the tux? It is absolutely you and your companion own decision. My tips is, it is better not to force things. So when your dress color could match the tie color of your companion perfectly and it looks good on him, go on. But, when it turns out that the matching game turn down your companion's appearance, might as well forget about it and just match your chemistry to make your appearance perfect.





The kind of dresses I prefer for prom, courtesy of renttherunway.com

I found all of the dresses above from renttherunway.com For you who is located in the US, I recommend you to visit the site. The system is easy, the dresses collection is awesome, and the price is very reasonable. And do not worry for my readers who reside in Indonesia, this belsbee.com and threewdress.com is beyond awesome, located in Jakarta and ready to ship to all over Indonesia, yay!

Now, speaking about tuxedo. What is my tips on choosing the best tux? Here we go:
  • Can't a suit be your choice instead of a tux for prom? Suit won't have satin in it. And those little difference is absolutely put a tremendous enhancement on your look. It is okay to wear suit to a prom, but when you prefer to choose tux, it will be one memorable night with one memorable and special look, that what tux brings to your appearance.
  • Bow tie is more classic than long tie. If you want to look a little bit not too formal, of course long tie is a choice. But according to me, bow tie suits tuxedo more, because the classic ambience it brings to your whole look.
  • Matching game with your lady's dress? Basically, it is the same with what I have said above. Do not force on things. When the color of the accessories you choose to match with your lady's dress is suited you best and put a whole enhancement to your look, go for it. But when it turns down your appearance, no no no. 
  • What is the best color for tux? Black is always classic. I love classic. But grey will give a little playful touch to your appearance. And navy blue do make your skin radiates its shine. So, your choice, which of the colors that matches your personality the most.



Rental price: $95 for pants and coat


Rental price: $120 for pants and coat

I stumble upon that incredible US online tuxedo rental, The Black Tux, and I am in love with it. Founded on 2013, of course, this is why I never heard of any of well-reputable online tuxedo rental back then. Look at the price of those tuxedos above, in my opinion it really is reasonable for such a good quality tuxedos. And, what does the thing that makes me fall in love with The Black Tux the most? Of course its renting system! I do not know that renting a suit could be this easy, I wish I knew.


Wait, that scheme above doesn't show how convenience it is to rent in The Black Tux yet. This is it: fit guarantee. The black tux gives us 2 option:
  1. Replacement items (If we tell The Black Tux within 48hrs after we receive our order that the size doesn't fit, they will replace the tux for free).
  2. Professional alterations (The Black Tux allows us to have a local tailor make adjustments on sleeve or pant length when they are a little off).
Oh my god, how cool is that? So you guys do not need to worry that the tuxedo that you rent won't perfectly fit on you. Convenient, reasonably priced, and luxurious. That's what I thought about The Black Tux. Anyway, for you who reside in Indonesia, sadly I haven't been able to find any online tuxedo rental that is as great as The Black Tux, so if you ever heard about any of it, would you please kindly suggest me in the comment section? I will appreciate it very much.


Sadly, I do not have any full picture with my favorite dress above. But don't you see the major difference from this picture and my first picture above? A proper make up, the right dress that suits both your personality and your figure, and the right hair do simply will make you shine, and better yet, be a head turner.